This picture is now almost seven years old. We have been together
on and off for almost a decade and I still love him as much as I did then. No, actually more. on and off
We were once shitty, stubborn, selfish teenagers. We loved hard but we fought harder.
We were seventeen, we really had no idea what we were doing. This ultimately lead to us being one of those really annoying on and off couples who broke up and got back together more often than not. I have honestly lost count. I have no idea what kept bringing us back together. Although I often expressed how much I “hated ” him to whoever would listen, not once did I ever fall out of love.
Long story short.. I decided the only way to get out of this, what was becoming an incredibly unhealthy cycle, was to run away. I decided I would go to Australia, be an au-pair for a year & after that, who knows.
Turns out my running away saved us. I was back within three months. We realised that this thing that was bringing us back together was real, we had grown up slightly & realised what was important.
Fast forward 6 years…
We get married in 21 days.
In less than a month I will officially be Mrs Chanelle Roberts.
I think the meaning of marriage is a very personal thing.
James’ parents were married when his mother was only eighteen and his father 22. They are still happily together.
My parents weren’t married until they had been together for 25 years which was a few weeks ago.
Because I never grew up with ‘married’ parents I don’t believe marriage is something you need to validate a loving, committed relationship. It’s kind of the cherry on the top.
Taking the name of your spouse and legally committing yourself to them is what should come once you have made the decision that this person is who you want to be with the rest of your life, regardless.
I am so incredibly excited to start this new chapter of our so far incredibly eventful lives together.
I am also quite nervous. It’s going to be hard. We’re going to have to work at it every day for the next however many years because I sure as hell know marriage doesn’t automatically secure happiness, passion, love or any of that gooey stuff that comes along with being in love with someone.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found. (I talk more about this here)
I know I have found a person who will continue to grow beside me and that he is someone who I can take on the world with. We have been through so much already and it has only made us stronger. As nervous as I might be as this wedding gets closer I know he is always going to be the only person I want to walk through life beside.
Any advice for the Mr & Mrs to be is greatly appreciated in the comments below!
I can’t wait to share the video and images from our big day, it’s going to be incredible!
Wish us luck!